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Jayne Gomez
Your ‘bat for both sides’ Infidelity Recovery Coach – Helping you reclaim your future after betrayal.
Infidelity doesn’t define you - your comeback does.
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How I Got Here
I’ve spent more than half my life in long‑term relationships - two marriages that shaped me in very different ways.
My first began when I was 21 and quickly unfolded into abuse, harm and control. It took me ten years to finally find the strength and courage I needed to leave for good.
Four years later, life looked very different. After taking the time I needed to find myself again, in 2010, I met Rick - we’ve been married for 15 years, and for most of that time our relationship has felt easy, loving, and grounded.
Then in 2022, our marriage was rocked by infidelity that shook the foundations of everything we’d built together. But ultimately, that experience became the catalyst for reshaping how we understand ourselves, each other, and the kind of partnership we wanted to create.
More than three years on, I’ve reflected deeply on not just what I did to get through that season with my sanity and self-worth intact, but how I did it – and who I became on the other side. And through navigating it with such steady awareness, I’ve learned the ‘cheat code’: whether you stay together or not, infidelity doesn’t define you. Your comeback does.
After a disappointing experience with traditional marriage counselling, I went on to have some coaching – just myself. And it changed everything. My mindset, my emotional regulation, my sense of self, my ability to move forward. It was so transformative that I went on to qualify as a coach and build the support system that I desperately needed back then but couldn’t find.
Now I help couples and individuals navigating infidelity to:
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Come to terms with what’s happened - so you can approach the situation with clarity rather than overwhelm
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Start the healing process - begin healing in a supported, grounded way with me helping you steady your emotions and take the next right step
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Rebuild trust and self-worth - by strengthening the parts of you that feel shaken, lost, or unsure
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Develop inner resilience and self-trust - that allows you to feel steady and anchored, whatever the outcome may be
Because the self-regulation and self-trust work I did on myself, long before anything in my marriage changed, grounded me so deeply that nobody’s presence nor absence defines my emotional safety anymore. And that’s the kind of inner steadiness I now help others build too.
Why I Do This Work
I still remember the day everything changed. It was August 2022, and for weeks I’d felt that something wasn’t right. Rick was distant, constantly on his phone, and no matter how hard I tried to convince myself I was imagining it… I knew I wasn’t.
When I finally asked him what was going on, the look on his face told me everything I was about to painfully discover.
What followed was devastation - for me, for him, and for our daughter. My world was shattered. I wasn’t eating, I wasn’t sleeping, and my emotions swung between despair, anger, and numbness. I was in full survival mode, and understandably, full on victim mode too.
At first, I believed it was entirely Rick’s job to fix what had been broken. But one day, in the middle of yet another emotional spiral, I had a moment of brutal clarity: it was now my behaviour, not his, that was sabotaging repairing the damage that had been done! I remember thinking, “Right now, I wouldn’t want to come home to me either.”
That moment was the beginning of my own healing.
What I Do and How I Do It
I hold a Diploma in Coaching and Positive Psychology, and my approach is rooted in practical, evidence‑based tools that help you move forward - not stay stuck in the pain.
While both coaching and counselling can be incredibly valuable, they serve different purposes. Counselling helps you look back so you can understand, process, and heal. Coaching helps you look forward, so you can rebuild, grow, and take empowered action.
Most of the couples who come to me have already tried some form of marriage counselling or therapy (myself included), and the feedback is almost always the same:
“We needed more than just being listened to.”
That’s where coaching comes in. So whether you work with me alone, or as a couple:
My work is future‑focused, practical, and growth‑oriented. We concentrate on what you’re trying to build - not what you’re trying to escape. Coaching is about the how: how to heal, how to rebuild trust, how to manage guilt, and how to move forward with confidence.
Unlike counselling or therapy, coaching is stigma‑free, positively oriented, and centred around real, usable tools - not just talking about the problem. My approach is solution‑focused, not problem‑focused, so you always know what we’re working toward and why.
Why Work With Me?
We’re all quick to judge someone who has cheated on their partner, but I know first-hand that the truth about infidelity is usually far more complex and nuanced than the surface level moral judgements we make.
Affairs are messy, emotional and deeply human experiences that challenge our understanding of love, commitment and forgiveness.
And are often about so much more than sex.
Through personal accountability, self-awareness, behavioural change, and emotionally intelligent coaching, I support my clients to transform their experience of infidelity into growth, resilience, and positive change.
My non-judgemental ‘bat for both sides’ (unfaithful and betrayed partner) approach means you’ll both feel seen, supported and guided with honesty and compassion. You’ll walk away with the insights, mindset shifts and techniques you need to accept, process the pain, rebuild trust, redefine love and reclaim your future. With not a judge, jury or executioner in sight!
Not every relationship survives infidelity. But for those willing to try, I am living proof that a crisis like this can become an opportunity for real growth and reconnection.
I believe that infidelity can be viewed from a dual perspective: hurt and betrayal on one side, growth and self-discovery on the other. And whether you stay together or not - the most powerful part of working with me is that I’ll guide you to feel steady and anchored within yourself, whatever the outcome.
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